In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. I wanted so badly to marry a guy who had recently left the church. I won't lie, there are times I have said to myself "what am I doing living like this. Mormonism and Non-Mormonism don't link to future lives. Eventually I hope each wards get to a point where they know that as a ward family our job is simply to make sure that each person, member or non member knows that when they enter the house of the Lord, they are loved. You were a banker too. This makes them overwhelmingly successful wives and mothers. We make time for each other every chance we get which sometimes is during the noon hour for lunch.
You can't provide that for her so your marriage will be defective from the outset. I know it will get better over time. I know a Doctor who drug his wife and 2 children across the US to begin his residency. I met my ex when he was a 2nd year resident and married him when he completed his oncology fellowship. I am literally too lazy to get up and get the computer. Stages of a Healthy Relationship.
I appreciate all the replies explaining the extent of the aggravation and pain I likely will face. The scenario where she refused to watch a possibly 'anti' documentary and wanted to watch church-sanctioned material sounds like a red flag. Be specific every time you ask. That is a reality you can't change. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. They may need much more than casual contact with the church to see the truth in it. Good luck and my prayers are with you. Men search the world for women that they can stand to be around with long-term. Nothing fixed that issue in me as fast as being almost inseparably bound to a woman that pushed back and kicked screaming against the pricks every time I wanted to make some sort of spiritual effort. I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from.
What you described, just being in each other's presence, sounds perfect. Though very busy he tries to be available when I need him. They seriously have movies about it. Some of the guests talked about the importance of helping hard core mormons to be open and accepting to ALL their brothers and sisters in the church, regardless of sexual orientation. Or should I just run and avoid a lifetime of heartbreak. You need to do this ceremony first where you end up pledging all your money and property to the church: It's cruel to suggest it. This blog is very healthy because it has helped me to feel less resentful about all the time I have to spend alone doing homework and being at functions.